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You are perfect/not
By Tom Furman
“Perfect is the enemy of good.” — Voltaire, quoting an Italian proverb.
Perfectionism is like a transcendental equation, which according to Mr. Spock, has no resolution. Since nothing is perfect, there is no satisfactory end point.
Perfectionism is a trait that makes life an endless report card on accomplishments or looks. When healthy, it can be self-motivating and drive you to overcome adversity and achieve success. When unhealthy, it can be a fast and enduring track to unhappiness.
What makes extreme perfectionism so toxic is that while those in its grip desire success, they are most focused on avoiding failure, resulting in a negative orientation. They don’t believe in unconditional love, expecting others’ affection and approval to be dependent on a flawless performance. — Psychology Today
Perfectionists have made sense of their personal experience by concluding that if they can be perfect, they can be acceptable as people. — Davidsongifted.org
There are three types of perfectionism — https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10862-013-9397-7
- Self -Oriented Perfectionists. They apply high standards to themselves.
- Socially -Prescribed Perfectionists. They believe…
